"No matter what I say, it's denied. Maybe you hate me?"

"I don't think my opinion is well communicated."

At that time, have you ever had a quarreling discussion, or have you been pushed by the opinions of the other party and couldn't say anything?

However, it is lonely that it becomes difficult to meet face to face just because of disagreements.

There are definitely people who disagree. But if you can respect the other person, you can come to a conclusion that is mutually convincing.

Introducing such "respectful Iroha".

Opinion and personality are different stories

First and foremost.
That is, just because you are denied an opinion does not mean that your personality is denied.
On the contrary, when denying the opinion of the other party, you must not deny even the personality.

When you disagree with the other person, something like a switch is turned on.
The switch will sometimes turn the debate into a jerky one, with counter-arguments, silence, and offensive language.
And finally, when I give up saying, "This person doesn't understand me (I can't understand the other person)", the disagreement leads to denial of personality.

"Mr. OO has this kind of thinking."

When it comes to talking about it, the discussion is almost confusing.

"Opinions and personalities are different"

Please be aware of it first.

Try to find something similar

I just have been denied by the other party, or I don't feel that my opinion has arrived.

In such a case, first try "searching for similar places".

I don't understand A, but I understand B

In that case, first discuss B carefully and get mutual agreement.

After becoming "a person with whom you can communicate" with each other, you will be able to proceed with subsequent conversations with peace of mind, and even if there are some disagreements, you will be able to proceed with constructive discussions.

In positive words before denial

"I disagree! Because ~"

As you can see, this way of speaking is not good.
If you suddenly deny it, the other person will be hurt, and you may feel that your personality has been denied.

When you disagree, first affirm the other person with positive words.

"I agree with the part of XX. How about this method for XX?"

After sympathizing, I will present another plan.

That way, you can lead the discussion in a better direction without conflicting with the other party.


What did you think?

I hope this article will give you a better discussion with respect for the other person.